Paul Mawdsley Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Hello to those who remember me being here before and to those who don't. It's been awhile. It's good to see some familiar names. Looking forward to hanging out here every once in a while again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guyau Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Hey there. Hope life is good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robert Campbell Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 Hey Paul,Good to hear from you.Robert Campbell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
william.scherk Posted May 16, 2012 Share Posted May 16, 2012 Paul, I hope you stick around and put your oar back in the water. In your last post, in 2008, there were tantalizing hints of what was next to come from you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Mawdsley Posted May 16, 2012 Author Share Posted May 16, 2012 Life is good. It's nothing like I planned but exactly what I need.I joined the divorce club, decided to excavate my inner and outer world down to its roots and am rebuilding in a new, more insightful and healthier way. My eyes have been opened to see the insides of both the dark side and the good side of people and relationships. And, as I tend to do, I questioned and mapped everything I witnessed. I now am using these insights in my life and I'm curious to see how they take shape in my writing.I can't promise anything "tantalizing"..lol...but I do hope to contribute some substance to discussions and the occasional article worthy of provoking thought.I have developed a definite interest in studying the narcissistic side of each of us, its inner dynamics, how it grows and how we seem to be living in a culture that is fertile for the psyche to either skew toward narcissism in some or skew towards blindness and acceptance of its shadowy operations in others. I am figuring out how to understand and deal with narcissism and its roots in everyday life as I am discovering how prevalent and how destructive it is. Narcissists seem to operate and grow in the dark of blind spots in our culture. It strikes me as epidemic today. I sense its roots are connected to what Barbara called "Objectivist Rage". This is one of the subjects I would like to discuss as I put my "oar back in the water". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted May 16, 2012 Share Posted May 16, 2012 Paul,It's great to see you again.Sorry to hear about your divorce.Here's a Richard Pryor quote about stuff like that, "Life's a bitch... and then you die!"Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Mawdsley Posted May 17, 2012 Author Share Posted May 17, 2012 Thanks Michael...more of a "life is what you make of it" kinda guy myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael Stuart Kelly Posted May 18, 2012 Share Posted May 18, 2012 Paul,LOL...That was a quip, of course.Incidentally, I saw you were interested in understanding narcissism. Here is a documentary I just watched. .The link is to part 1 of a 9 part series on YouTube. You can catch the other parts once you are on YouTube. I suppose I could embed them all here, but I'm feeling lazy. Although the title does not say narcissism, but psychopath instead, it most definitely is about narcissism. It is a film about Sam Vaknin. They did brain scans on him and everything else.It's not a great documentary, mildly entertaining, but it does show interesting information on how narcissists have different brain patterns than other folks and how narcissists target their victims. (They are cunning little suckers.) Also some stuff on people who fall in love with narcissists, which I imagine you might be interested in--if I read you correctly. Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Mawdsley Posted May 18, 2012 Author Share Posted May 18, 2012 Michael,I will definitely give it a watch. I've been fortunate enough to fall in love with a couple of women on my journey who have some pretty extreme defense mechanisms and control systems lurking in the shadows. Borderline and Narcissistic personalities make for pretty intense learning opportunities on the dark side of life. It was a journey through my own insides. Two things I've learned: I am strong enough to let anything and anyone all the way inside and still hold onto me; and nothing inside can scare me now. I sense the 12 steps has some similar lessons.Paul Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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